Counselling for Adults
Sometimes you just need somewhere to work things through.
Adult life comes with a lot to navigate. Work, relationships, family, responsibilities, change, and figuring out what you want for yourself can all take up space.
Maybe there's something specific you'd like help with. Maybe you've been feeling stressed, anxious, stuck, or disconnected from yourself. Or maybe you can't quite put your finger on what's going on—you just know you'd like some support.
You don't need to have it all figured out before you reach out.
At Sholinder Counselling Collective, we provide counselling for adults with a warm, collaborative, practical, and strengths-based approach. We'll start with what's happening for you and work together to find ways of understanding what's going on, along with tools and strategies that fit your life.
Frequently Asked Questions About Counselling For Adults
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People come to counselling for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes there's a specific thing you'd like to work on. Sometimes you know that something isn't feeling right but aren't sure where to begin.
You might be navigating:
Anxiety, stress, or feeling overwhelmed
Relationships and communication
Work or career changes
Family or parenting challenges
Grief and loss
Difficult or traumatic experiences
Identity, self-esteem, or confidence
ADHD or AuDHD
Emotional regulation
Major life transitions
Feeling stuck or unsure about what comes next
Changes in your relationships, priorities, or sense of yourself
You might recognize yourself in some of these. You might not.
You don't need to have a specific reason or a particular label to reach out.
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There's no single way counselling has to look.
Some people want a place to talk things through. Others are looking for practical strategies or help making sense of something specific. Often, it's a combination.
Depending on what you're looking for, sessions might involve:
Talking through something that's happening right now
Understanding connections between thoughts, feelings, and behaviours
Learning practical ways to manage stress or difficult emotions
Exploring relationships and communication
Working on boundaries
Processing a difficult or painful experience
Exploring patterns that may be getting in the way
Identifying strengths, values, and resources you can draw on
Setting goals and figuring out practical next steps
We'll work together to find what feels useful rather than trying to fit you into one particular approach.
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Sometimes you know exactly what you want help with.
Sometimes you just know that something feels different.
Maybe you're more irritable than usual. Maybe you're finding it harder to enjoy things. Maybe you're overwhelmed by decisions or responsibilities. Maybe you're questioning what you want from your work, relationships, or life.
You don't need to arrive with a clear explanation.
Figuring out what's going on can be part of the work.
We can start with what's been on your mind and see where the conversation takes you.
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Sometimes something happens that changes how you're feeling or how you're able to manage things.
It might be a loss, a relationship change, a new responsibility, a difficult experience, a change at work, or simply a period where there seems to be more on your plate than usual.
You may have handled similar things before and find that this time feels different.
You don't have to wait until things become unmanageable before asking for support.
Counselling can be a place to slow down, make sense of what's happening, and figure out what might help.
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Different counsellors have different personalities, experiences, areas of focus, and ways of working.
What feels helpful for one person may not feel right for someone else. You may connect with one approach more than another, or simply feel more comfortable with one counsellor's way of working.
It's okay to talk to more than one counsellor and figure out what works best for you.
If you've had counselling before, that experience is part of what you bring with you. You can talk about what was helpful, what wasn't, and what you'd like to do differently this time.
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Counselling isn't only for times when something is going wrong.
You might be starting a new career, becoming a parent, ending a relationship, moving, navigating a loss, changing direction, or trying to figure out what you want from the next stage of your life.
Even changes you've chosen or feel positive about can bring uncertainty.
Counselling can give you some space to step back from everything that's happening and think about what matters to you, what you need, and where you want to go from here.
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Not everyone is looking for counselling that is mostly about talking.
You may want help understanding a situation, changing a pattern, managing difficult emotions, improving communication, or figuring out what to do next.
Our approach is practical and collaborative. Depending on what you're working on, counselling may include learning and practicing specific skills, exploring different ways of responding, or breaking a larger challenge into smaller, more manageable steps.
The goal is to find tools and strategies that are actually useful in your life—not just things that sound good in a counselling session.
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There's no particular level of difficulty you need to reach before counselling makes sense.
You might be dealing with something specific. You might have been thinking about a change for a while. Or you might simply want some space to understand yourself and what's happening in your life.
A free 15-minute consultation is a chance to ask questions, talk a little about what you're looking for, and get a sense of whether we'd be a good fit.
We'll also be honest with you if we think another counsellor, another kind of support, or a combination of approaches might make more sense.
Find a Counsellor Who Works With Adults
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Carmel Mohebati
Counsellor
Online and by phone across Canada | In-person in Victoria, BC.